new year – PurplePretoria

It’s quiet in here. Everyone’s asleep. It happens so rarely that sometimes I stay awake, against better judgement just to catch the waves of my own mind. It is in this quiet that I realise that it’s not just the house, my only social medium has been blank for more than two days. I guess when the [both real and phantom] battles cease, I have nothing left to occupy me. Maybe, I should resign from saving everyone else.

I wonder if sometimes, the noise outside, muffles the deep fears and insecurities we hold in the dim un-swept tunnels of our hearts creating such a cacophony of life; rivalries, intrigue, ruminating among the rumuor-mongers, crowning antagonists, felling the weak and watching silently as it all falls apart, our way of trying to rein it all in; and maybe, the consistency of love and domesticity so terrifying that, if everything is okay, then something must be wrong.

It is almost exactly a year ago that I was certain that I was at my most tired and most sleepless, taking care of two children without the mellowing presence of a fellow adult, especially the fellow adult with whom we shared the efforts of their creation. Then we had met again and I always say to him when asked why I can’t sleep, You can’t expect a car moving at 180 kilometres an hour to just stop. For that reason, I acquired his left-over melatonin tablets and bought a sleep inducing pillow spray in preparation for the year ahead. Then at the stroke of the New Year came, she came. Though I was convinced that it could not be, I knew when she did, landing on my uterus with a cramping thud. The first test had said most probably not, the tracking application had said nearly impossible and God must have known I was tired, but on the way back home, thousands off feet above the ground, somewhere in a desert sky, it was clear as day. I turned and saw that the youngest child had finally fallen deeply asleep and the eldest, still awake. “You’re having a baby sister.” His eyes beaming, excited. He immediately gave her a name. There had been so many signs. I was unusually hungry. I was starting to getting lost. I wanted to see the sea again, and I had been a well of tears at the airport when I said bye.

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So we went back home, the four of us. I walked out of a place that I had been a part of for eight years and I left with my heart in my hands. The first morning after driving the children to school and having nowhere else to be but home, I walked in to the house to find a small damaged phone blasting the music of the day, as aggressively amorous as it came. The house was mopped. A few dishes were still in the sink. I was an intruder in my home and unknown to the new maid, I was here to stay.

She was hardworking. No cloth in the house was left un-ironed. But, the volume was turned down and I preferred that she iron the clothes inside out and also, after observation, of a game about splashing water on the young one’s nose so he playfully could decide whether to laugh or breathe, that I be the one to bathe the boys from now on. Then one day I confronted her about lying. If she could not be honest about the small things, how could I trust her with the children? I asked. Her eyes dark and burning, she began to shout. She asked me what she had lied about. I told her. She clucked her tongue at what I had said and aggressively turned back to washing the dishes. The clucking, how to describe a sound that has no vowels; a loud knock of a knuckle against a wooden door; a well known gesture of disrespect. She and I coming from amongst closely connected community, the interpretation was shared. I retreated to my room. I decided to only speak when I had to and whenever I annoyed her with an inquisition into one or other thing, she knocked things around loudly, and if in that moment, she happened to have a knife in her hand, she wielded it so expertly, swinging it and landing it with more force than the pumpkin or sugarcane needed.

On that first day when I had come back unexpectedly, between the songs on the phone-radio, there had been a commentary on the local news about a young woman, from a fairly distant trading centre, her first name rhyming with the woman in my house, her second name, of the same background. The woman in the story, a ‘woman of the night’ had killed a man in a fit of rage and run away. It crossed my mind that it was not impossible to harbor a fugitive, after all, most of the strangers I had received, were casually and contentedly lacking any form of identification papers.

My sleeping had got worse. The melatonin had gone to waste and the sleeping spray, untouched for months before I sprayed it and could not bear to breathe it in. At night, I looked forward to daybreak, the sound of neighbours hooting and policemen blowing whistles at the junction; and now that the burning January month (s) had ended, it became easier to sleep once the sun was out. One hot afternoon I woke up and the house was quiet which was unusual for a house with children. Through the glass doors I saw the littlest one busy on the smart phone I had requested be kept away from them. The older one snuggled a little too comfortably on her lap. The instant she saw me, she seamlessly grabbed the phone and kept it, startling the toddler, who began to cry but quickly stopped on account of some signal I could not decipher and the five year old tried to cover it up with laughing. She had taught them so well, undoing the years of training honesty in only a matter of weeks. In the wee hours of a morning days before, in drifts of sleep, I had heard her damningly loud ring tone somewhere close, where it should not have been. Things were starting to lean into the whimsical.

She cooked the only food I liked- katogo. It was the only meal I could eat twice consecutively. She had observed that; and the children had learned the word because of her. It was a Sunday and this time I had gone without her. I barely heard the sermon but it was clear to me when I left the gathering. She welcomed the children with enthusiasm, talked to them as she did everyday and said nothing to me as I stood there watching them. I walked away, counted the money I had. It had been two weeks after the month began. “You’re going home.”

“Of course”, she replied smugly. “I was already on my way out.”

The children have seen me dance before and perhaps, it had been something I did frequently, with much vigor and determined abandonment. In that moment, they can’t find ‘mummy’ so they get tired quickly, sleepy, the music too loud, someone needing to be held. I had attempted to dance that year but it was the way the children looked at me, standing quietly on the side that it appeared to me that I was not dancing, I was breaking. It was two months later, in the seventh month of that year after I knew that everything would change that I found myself, with child, taking a chance on the bygone fashion of a previously popular song to the astonishment of the people around me, the confusion on their faces clearly telling, that it had been a very long time since I had truly danced.

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They say that sometimes things fall apart so that better things can come together

Remembering the pregnancy tests in O’level- always an ambush from the school nurses. All gates were locked, everyone rounded up, dormitory by dormitory. The pressure with which the nurse fell onto your stomach may have been more of a strategy than a test

*There is something about The Hallelujah Challenge that I haven’t yet figured out. I can hide on any other day but on the day after the dancing, minutes after the dancing, my heart and its contents are left open like an unguarded gate. It’s on again.

When I first began to write about 2020, it was before our national peak of Corona virus infections. During the lockdown, I had began to see the world for what it was, an oyster. Every day was the same. The sun rose and the sun set. Every day. It was what we chose to do with the time that mattered.

It had been predicted that November would be the month when infections surged and, they did. There was a collective trepidation when it was first reported that we had 1 infection and then 3 in the country. Between June and August, one newspaper had termed ‘Black Thursday’ a day when 14 people were reported to have died of Corona. The next day, it retracted the statement rectifying the terrible misinformation that all 14 had died on the same day. The nation breathed a sigh of relief. By November, we had over 20, 000 cases.

Perhaps this was one of the most distinguishing thing about this disease, a collective pain, a collective loss, a highlight to the lives that have been lost, different from the everyday lives killed by other shy diseases which lacked the diabolic infamy of the corona.

Fresh from the Presidential tea parties that had been somewhat numbing, we peeled ourselves from the domestic and into the capital. There were reports that the business community was being intentionally strangled by the closure of malls and arcades. There were rumours that the disease might not even exist. Then, people started getting sick and people started dying. The stigma was not half as deep as the HIV/AIDs stigma of the 90s, when it was believed that those who had it deserved to have it, that they were immorally complicit, but there was fear.

Contrary to African culture, vigils became smaller and funerals became virtual. People usually hurdled close to the bereaved families for long hours. This time, attending was a test of courage and solidarity with a soundtrack of ‘foolishness’ playing in the back of your head, saying that you were walking right into the devil’s trap. Yet, there was still space, a hollow drumming on of the loss of the vibrant personalities and unmistakable voices and laughs that had forever left our world. In the mind of a mourner, there are two things, fear for the lives of their loved ones that still breathe, and the pitch black image of what happens when the door closes. Do they stand besides their earthly container and watch the people they loved break down and get torn apart or do they just sit and laugh with God and say, ‘Owo, this was all part of the plan, wasn’t it? Ha Ha Ha.’ But, at least in your dreams, they should not talk, mother said. They are not supposed to. And they don’t eat either. If you invite them to eat, they will stop haunting you.

Suddenly, 2020 had become the bleak Armageddon of March when it was announced that the Wuhan virus was no longer in Wuhan.

When Ebola came, it was an African thing. it was the year 2000 and at our Primary School assembly we were advised to stop shaking hands, to just do the bonga like the street people. The symptoms were, bleeding out of every outlet, fever and eventual death. There was no cure. Dr. Lukwiya and his nurses died saving lives. The rest of the world was safe. It was just us, third worlders.

The end of the year has coincided with a history repeating itself. Civil unrest, blood on the hands, blood on cameras, blood on the streets, a once national ideology evolved into a personal ambition. How at peace, are those who sit powerful, above on thrones, knowing how it all began and how it will all end.

2020 did revive old dreams. It sparked new ways of thinking, changed the status quo. It threw off the best laid plans and it revealed our desperate yearning for an anchor.

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The year

2020